Never Forget. I Remember.

My Father used to speak of remembering where he was when JFK was shot. Each generation has certain key historic moments seared into their brains.

I remember where I was when the attempted assassination of President Ronald Reagan took place took and James Brady took the bullet to his head instead.

I remember when the space shuttle Challenger exploded carrying teacher Christa McAuliffe.

And like many of you reading this, I recall exactly where I was and what I was doing on this day fourteen years ago.

1 World Trade Center Today I made a promise to myself to stay off social media from the time the first plane hit, to when the first building fell. At first I doubted the rational in this, but I do believe it forces us (me at least) to be in the moment and respect the lives that were lost on that day.

I don’t have television to (pre) occupy me, so here I am writing instead.

It took me ten years to write about my experiences on September 11th  for this blog. I watched the second tower fall before my very eyes as I stood with a crowd of shocked and desperate New Yorkers on that day. I also included an eloquent post that day from a fellow I HAVE CAT reader who told about her 9/11 experience watching it all unfold from England. Last year, I posted a piece by a friend of mine shared her perspective on the days that followed 9/11.

the hopes of light

Taken last year, the hopes of light reaching up to the moon.

If you haven’t read those posts I encourage you to do so. They are all written from the heart and give you very different perspectives of that day fourteen years ago. I still cannot believe that many years have passed and how fresh the wounds still are.

This year, I visited the 9/11 Memorial Museum. I hadn’t planned on it, but a friend visiting from out of the country did. So i went, reluctantly, and was very impressed by how the museum had been curated.

I did, however get into it with a  group of Brazilian tourists at the footprints, which I see as hallowed ground, who were giggling and taking selfies and told me “they didn’t care,” when I asked them to tone it down as this was a sacred place where many had lost their lives. I walked away before I did anything I might regret.

1 WTCThis year, I want to reprint something I’ve been seeing circulating on the internet. I wish I knew who to give credit to for these sentiments but never the less, I found them worth sharing (technically I should have posted it last night, but it’s still very powerful in my opinion and it’s never to late to do what it recommends tody).

It’s advice I hope I can work to internalize and live by this credo rather than think about one day out of the year.

At this moment, 14 years ago, millions of Americans went to bed quietly, with no thought that the next morning their world would change forever.

That night hundreds packed flight bags they would not live to open. Thousands slept with loved ones for the last time. On never knows what a new day has in store.

Let us live each day to the fullest, and never miss a chance to let those dearest to us know of our love for them.

So tonight if you have someone in your love that you love, tell them.



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16 Responses to Never Forget. I Remember.

  1. Bernadette says:

    It’s a wonderful remembrance, and lessons to take away.

  2. Rena says:

    Very nice piece, Tamar. Even though I was 3000 miles away, watching it unfold on television, I will never forget and will never look at the New York skyline without noticing that gaping hole where the towers used to be.

    • I HAVE CAT says:

      That’s exactly how I felt. Gaping holes for sure. It still feels that way. Though I’m glad they decided to keep the footprints and not build on them…

  3. This is absolutely beautiful, Tamar. I remember every one of the events that you mentioned, but none as vividly as 9/11. I can’t even imagine living there in the city at the time. We can never, ever forget what happened that day.

  4. sandpipercat says:

    That image is so powerful. Glad you shared, Tamar.

  5. jmuhj says:

    Not only Americans, but the entire world has changed, and not for the better since those events unfolded. I was sleeping at thd time (it’s 3 hours earlier here on the Left Coast) and my (now ex-)husband woke me up to tell me about what he was seeing on TV. I couldn’t process it at all at the time; later on, when I got up, I called my parents because I knew they wouldn’t be watching TV and probably didn’t even know yet. No matter what our perspectives/ideologies, we all know that everything has changed as of that time. Can’t believe the tourists’ attitudes you cite! except to say that some people process the unprocessable in ways that aren’t necessarily “typical”.

    Yes, we all know that life will never be the same, all over the world, for us all. It is a tragedy that knows no words.

    • I HAVE CAT says:

      Yes, we all have our clear memories of that day – who told us, what we saw, who we spoke to even though it was 14 years ago. It’s unfathomable to me how much our lives have changed. And how many young adults don’t even remember a life pre-9/11 it’s certainly one of those momentous events that changed our world and I agree, not for the better sadly. It’s so hard to hold on to the lessons we learned. But maybe if we can remember to tell those around us even once in a while how much we love and appreciate them.

  6. mabavaresco says:

    Beautiful post!

  7. Ingrid King says:

    What a beautiful piece, Tamar. I think all of us, that day, and during the days, weeks and months following it, vowed to change our lives, to reevaluate priorities, and to hold our loved ones just a little tighter. For most of us, those changes may not have “taken.” The anniversary is always a poignant reminder that everything can change in an instant. Like you, I strive to incorporate that credo into my life every day. We’re all a work in progress, and reminders like your beautiful post help us stay the course. Thank you for this.

    • I HAVE CAT says:

      Thank you Ingrid, your comments means so much. It’s so easy to forget as we rush in our day-to-day lives. It’s sad that it takes a day like today to make us stop and really think. Thank you again for stopping by and reading and taking the time to comment.

  8. Summer says:

    My human has been ignoring the anniversary all day because she says she just wants to move on and stop looking back. The truth is that it still hurts and she’s sad at how much hatred there still is in the world… in fact, there may be even more now.

    • I HAVE CAT says:

      It’s very painful. It’s strange that even in NYC people talk about it less and less each year. But I remember it as if it just happened. I don’t have cable so I couldn’t watch anything on TV but I think that was ok. I remembered them in my hearts.

      I think we need to remember the words in that poem and live by them though it’s hard to internalize and hold onto for sure……xo