Unexpected Valentine

Skinny Petie and Kip look alikes (love this photo but don’t know who took it)

Ah, it’s that time of year again. The time when restaurants overcharge love birds and single women either stay in drinking vats of wine or go out in large groups to “take back the night.”

Last year, because of my New Years resolution to meet a non-furry two-legged single straight male, I dipped my toe into the world of online dating. Specifically sites that were more geared to the pet lover.

It wasn’t promising.  In fact, I didn’t do too well with dating – online or not – as most of you know from my 3 part dating series from late last year.

But do not fear. I think I’ve found my niche. Meeting cute, single, straight men at pet writers and blogging conventions.

While the girl to guy ratio is abysmal (20:1?) the number of single outgoing women 40 or under is pretty limited.

Haddie (l) and Kip (r) try to make their own heart shape!

Last year I attended BlogPaws, a pet blogging convention with mostly married attendees. But yours truly ended up honing in on the cutest guy at the event. Granted nothing came of it but it was fun and unexpected.

This past weekend I attended the Pet Writer Convention in NYC where I got to reconnected with Ingrid King (Conscious Cat), Yvonne DiVita and Tom Collins, (BlogPaws) and meet some new folks like Stephanie of Catsparella and Ann Dzieimianowicz, the author of “Careers for your Cat.”

I couldn’t help but notice the hipster photographer covering the event and wondered what was going through is mind as he photographed the crazy cat and dog ladies spending their Saturday afternoon at the Hotel Pennsylvania.

Stephanie of Catsparella and Tamar from I HAVE CAT finally meet in the flesh!

I’m not sure who made the first move but suddenly I was babbling to him about being a 40 year old writing about living in NYC with cat (s).

“How many cats?” he asked.

“Um…three,” I said with a shrug to signal I knew it was a bit much.

He got quiet and stared at me somewhat blankly.  I figured I’d blown it with either the “I’m 40” or “3 cats” bits.

To my surprise the only thing he repeated back to me was “you’re single?” We ended up hanging out (okay and smooching) after the convention but sadly he had to go back to Florida where he’s living for a few months. The good news? He lives in Brooklyn, so perhaps a proper date awaits me in 2011!


Hug your cats (if you can) and your friends and family. Take a moment to recognize love in your life in whatever form it comes.

Lots of Love,

Tamar, Kip, Petie and Haddie.

PS – Photog guy is allergic to cats. Ah cruel universe!


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  • It was so great to see you again. You and that photographer would make a cute couple – fingers crossed!

    Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

    • I HAVE CAT

      He is a cutie and actually had a great conversation (what a combo, so rare!). I’ll keep you posted. For now, my only Valentines are my kitties. I made sure to hug them all this morning (they were not happy!).
      Great to see you too Ingrid. SOMEDAY we will have time for a drink!

  • Happy Valentine’s day to you too. I just LOVE your writing. I’m an old married, so its been a while to go through the dating scene, but I am going to share that date a douche site with her.

    I can’t afford to travel for the blogpaws, I’m so jealous.

    I married a wonderful man who is almost as crazy about our cats as I am, so be sure you find one of those, they do exist.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks SOOO MUCH for the sweet compliment. It means so much given I’ve never thought of myself as a natural writer.

      Def share the DOUCHE site. It’s funny, not intended to be mean but basically now those who are NOT single can share our pain! haha!

      I’m so happy you found an amazing cat loving man! I hope I do toO!

      Real men love cats — if you haven’t already seen this post I predict you will LOVE it! http://ihavecat.wordpress.com/2009/10/18/catloving-men-are-best/

  • I’m definitely going to check all the links you left for us today. I’ts nice to read someone that honest online and I’m glad to hear you met this cool guy from Brooklyn! fingers crossed!
    I’d hug my cat but I very much appreciate my eyes (I don’t know, I guess I’m just used to have them now), so I will just softly touche her head while she is deeply asleep 🙂 It’s always a pleasure to read you Tamar.
    Happy Valentine’s day!

    • I HAVE CAT

      I love it “I very much appreciate my eyes” ! LOL! I hear you! My cats thankfully do not lash out at me. They just give me dirty looks and their bodies get all rigid! ha!

      Thanks for your continued reader ship! HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! xo

  • Happy Valentine’s day to you…I love the picture with the heart shaped kitties. As I write my kitten is sitting curled up in a ball on my chest…her favorite place to lay…hope you have a good day!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Awww that’s super sweet. I don’t know what the feels like (having a kitty snuggled up on me!). My kitties get FORCED LOVE! LOL!
      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Rebecca

    Wooo Whooooo! So glad the weekend was a good one and that you fit in a make-out session!! LOL (Hey, it counts!!!) When he gets back to town, send him a box of Claritin and invite him over for drinks!!! Aren’t you glad you don’t have lap cats?


    • I HAVE CAT

      Hysterical Rebecca! Thanks for finding the silver lining!

  • Happy Valentine…from Pingu the kitty… check out the facebook page too


    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks for visiting! I will def check out your blog and FB page!

  • happy valentines day tamar! i hope the date turns out successfully! 🙂

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks Yasmine – – i’ll let you know as soon as we have a PROPER date! 🙂

  • Susan

    Happy Valentines Day, Tamar! Thank you for all your wonderful posts, and support for the cat-loving populace, both male and female!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks so much Susan for the ongoing support! Means a LOT!

  • I hope it works out for you and the photographer. He obviously wasn’t scared away by either the “I’m 40” or “I have 3 cats” so that’s always a good sign. However, I’m not sure he’s “the right one” since he is allergic. Maybe just a fun fling??

    Loved the heart-making kittehs in the first photo! I make no apologies that I spend this day with my three Furry Valentines, and have dedicated my post today to them.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Well..he didn’t say he didn’t like cats…just that he was allergic but he has an inhaler I think 🙂
      Enjoyed your post today!

  • WEll this all sounds promising. Hope it works out for you. Please keep us posted on the developments. Happy Valentine’s day to you .

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Marg! I will keep you posted. it was DEF fun and i needed it. So nice to meet someone you can connect with. Sometimes I think i’m too old for that so it’s nice to know i’m not!

  • Well, online dating does work now and then. I had a few horrifying dates, but I perservered, and wound up meeting my husband! 🙂 (And he’s a cat person too!)

    • I HAVE CAT

      Tammy – LOVE hearing these stories! woot woot! My sister actually met her very sweet boyfriend online and they have been dating for about a year now!

  • jmuhj

    All the best to you in your quest! 😉 I’m not even looking. If it happens, it’ll happen naturally, not through any effort on my part. And yes, he MUST love cats or he won’t even be on our radar.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks Jmuhj! I go through phases of having the energy to put forth an effort. So rare that it happens naturally so that’s why it’s so lovely and refreshing when it does!

  • Chris DuPont

    You go Tamar!!! Happy to read of the success of the Pet Writer Convention on ALL levels! Old friends, new friends…potential “boy”-type-friend. Nice!

    Happy Valentines Day to you & your fuzzies. I’ll be snuggling my sweet girl today like everyday. She’s a permanent addition to my lap & I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Peace&Paws, C~

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks Chris! Love that your lap has an extension! Wish mine did! My boys (and girl) are HARDLY lap cats!

  • mar

    Sooo cute Tata! I lurve you! MEW!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks baby sis!

  • I just got back to NY from Florida today. Hello, Jet Blue. Go down and see him!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Love! 🙂
      Will do as soon as I am invited I promise!

  • adorable photo of you both!

    Hope you are having a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks Caren! Looking forward to meeting you soon dear!

  • Hi Tamar, It was great to meet you on Saturday! Sorry you couldn’t go with us, but there is always a next time! 🙂 And it seems like it was worth it to miss Matilda just this once. Plus she was z-z-z-z-ing. So she won’t be upset.

    Sounds like the “blank look” you got from the photographer was just him calculating how allergic he would be! Not a statement at all! Glad you both had fun.

    Happy Heart Day!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Ann! I can’t believe how different this Matilda seems from the last one I saw….this one seems much more of the people! :
      Yes, at least i had a good excuse to miss it right? We shall see about allergies…I will be sure to keep you posted!

  • Lucky you, getting to attend the Pet Writers Conference! It was a little far for me, living in Los Angeles (plus I have at least three, maybe four conferences scheduled to attend this year already). I did notice that quite a large percentage of pet conference attendees are married or attached. So when a cool, single guy shows up, it’s pretty easy for you to be noticed! Sounds like you found someone fun – fingers crossed!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Janiss! Well I am a BIG dork b/c i didn’t go to BLOGHER when it was in NYC! I’ll let you know how it goes! For now he is out of town for work for a while so we shall see….keep those fingers crossed! 🙂

  • Sounds promising, T! Happy Valentine’s Day to you and all your furry kids. 🙂

    • I HAVE CAT

      THANKS! Keep your fingers crossed for me! Hope you had a great V day! =^^=

  • Tamar!! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.. So awesome getting to finally meet you in the flesh!! I’m sorry we didn’t get more of a chance to talk, but that just means we’ll have to make plans to do it again soon! I agree with Ingrid’s comment..you guys would make a cute couple! Like Ann said, Matilda was asleep the whole time..so all you missed was me crawling on the floor trying to pet her..haha! Hope you had a nice Valentine’s Day! <3

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Stephanie! Let me know when you are in the city again soon! I’ll let you know where we net-out…fingers crossed. HOw awesome and random would THAT be?! LOL!

  • LOVE the photo of you and Stephanie — what a couple of hot chicks! The photographer will be lucky to land a proper date with you 🙂 Good luck!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks Angie! I’ll let you know what happens! fingers crossed! =^^+

  • You are cracking us up! Hope all is well with you. If you don’t mind, we would like to share your top 24 reasons post on our radio show this Thursday (http://www.blogtalkradio.com/tppc.tv 6:30PM EST). We will give a shout out to you and credit.

    Hope to see you at the next BP!
    Robbin and Joe, TPPC.tv

    • I HAVE CAT

      Robin and Joe,
      Sorry it took me so long to respond – your comment was stuck in the SPAM folder! Don’t know HOW that happened! Of course you can use the 24 reasons – hope you did! 🙂

  • Just love the photos! So cute.
    Thanks for stopping by today. It is always nice to see you. You had asked who did my purrrrtrait and it was done by The Creek Cat’s mommie. Here is their link:http://thecreekcats.blogspot.com
    Once you get there their mommie’s place is on their sidebar.