What’s In a Name

“It should be ‘I Have A Cat’ ”

“We don’t have cats, they have us.”

“Don’t you have more than one cat?”

It seems the name of this blog has a few people scratching their heads (or ears?). Let me attempt to explain.

When you’re a single 30-something year old, “cat (s)” is a dirty word not to be discussed in mixed company.

There’s a dinner party scene in a movie called “Parenthood” where the guests begin talking about a friend who has cancer. At the mention of the word they speak in hushed tones. Same goes for the word “cat.” It’s like having a disease or illness.

“I have erectile dysfunction”

“I have…cat.”

“Yeh, that’s my friend Tamar she has (drops voice to barely perceptible volume)…cats.”

I am all too aware of the stigma, the stereotypes. But I also know I’m not alone. Stylish, cat-hair-free-clothed single women who secretly ferret away cats for fear of back-lash are out there in droves.

So the name of this blog is a proclamation of sorts. A rallying cry to bring cat women out of the closet.

I’m not ashamed to say: Yes, I HAVE CAT (s).

If you were to write a blog about your life, what would it be called?

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  • nor should you be!

    • I HAVE CAT

      Thanks Caren! 🙂

  • Angela

    I’m proud to have four cats!

    • I HAVE CAT

      hear hear! 🙂

  • Well, i have EIGHT so i’m probably in the “crazy cat lady” category for sure. but i’m old, have been married, have grown children, so i think there is a different category for us old has-been types — lol. I had a pet sitting job for a real crazy cat lady earlier this year who had six cats. I was walking with another client and her dog and we were talking about the situation because she volunteered for a local cat rescue. she said “my personal feeling is anyone with six cats is definitely crazy.” so i cleared my throat and under my breath said “i have eight.” she had that appalled look on her face — abject horror — and changed the subject.

    • I HAVE CAT

      I love it Bonnie! Call ’em out on it!

    • dru

      i had 8 cats till May when Caveman crossed the Bridge…. now i have 7………….n 5 dogs……
      dru

  • The Chair Speaks

    We and our human don’t care what the world thinks as long as we and our human are happy and healthy! 🙂

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi! Thanks for visiting and posting a comment – i think it’s your first time no?!??!

      BRAVO for you and your human!
      xo

  • Lila Stone

    I have 2 cats and I also am 30 something and single. All 3 of us LOVE your blog.

    • I HAVE CAT

      THANKS LILA!!! 🙂
      =^^=

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  • Ryan Chin

    I always wondered what the deal was. I thought it was an ‘inside’ thing.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hopefully I didn’t lose all the mystique by telling!

  • hello, my name is sidey and I have cats

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Sidey! Thanks as always for supporting I HAVE CAT!

  • Well I already have a blog about my life called “The Cat’s Meow” ~ because my furry boys are my life!

    Jan

  • Debbie

    Evern since I discovered your blog on PeoplePets.com, I’ve always liked the name “I Have Cat”. Didn’t really think why it was called that other than you have cat(s). 🙂 I have cat – he’s my first cat ever – I rescued him 2 years ago from a life on the suburban streets. I feel he in turn rescued me. He gives me such joy and warm and fuzzies – even when he bites (out of love of course). My blog would be called Louie Love because it would be about him! Thanks for your blog – it’s a fun read – and informative!

    Debbie (a 43 year old cat lady and proud of it!)

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Debbie! Thanks so much for your readership! So glad you found us and kitty love! Thanks so much for rescuing! Please do upload photos of him to our facebook page if you haven’t already! http://www.facebook.com/ihavecat
      So glad you enjoy I HAVE CAT!

  • jmuhj

    “CATS HAVE ME” or maybe “EIGHT IS NOT ENOUGH” (because we recently lost one of our beloveds).

    In the middle of life, divorced, no kids (don’t want any!!!) and from proud cat lovers/rescuers on both sides of my family, men and women, with no apologies. In our backgrounds, it’s a wonderful thing to care about, love, and share life with cats, who we love and respect very much. I don’t get this weird mindset people have here!!! and hope I never do.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Jmuhj!
      I love “Eight is not enough,”sorry to hear about your loss 🙁
      Cats are certainly wonderful – lots of upside!
      🙂

  • Fabulous. I’m not ashamed either. I have four cats. And three dogs! And I wish I could have more.

    🙂

    • I HAVE CAT

      awwww you rock Daniela!

  • Yes, I’m “only” a man, but I have 2 cats, I’m left-handed (special category…), and I love women and cats. I also publish Catnip Chronicles, the world’s premier felizine. So, I am well-qualified to say:

    I liked and understood “I Have Cat” immediately. Don’t change a hair for me…

    • I HAVE CAT

      we LOVE men who love cats – but you know that already kent! Thanks for your contant readership/support.
      Best, T!

  • Testify!! I still don’t get how having a miniature dog in your purse is adorable, cute and feminine – yet having a few cats at home is borderline crazy.

    • I HAVE CAT

      I TOTALLY agree! Cats are WAY cooler!

  • Mine would have to be “I Have Animals” or maybe just “Animal House” or “Life in a Circus”. I also help rescue and place homeless shelter animals, so our numbers fluctuate… not that we don’t have many of our own too, LOL.

    • I HAVE CAT

      i LOVE animal house – might be taken already though 🙂 Thanks for all you do for the kitties!

  • I’m proud to say my wife and I have three cats. And I’m just as proud to proclaim that I already had a cat before I met my wife! 🙂

    • I HAVE CAT

      woot woot! we love men who love cats!! 🙂

  • I moved from Romania to The Netherlands 2 years ago and found it very difficult to adjust to the new no-pets-allowed life here. So I read about other cat-owners’ life (like your blog). But finally after 2 years, my boyfriend and I bought a house and it finally happened: we’re adopting 2 kittens from a nearby cattery. It took a little while to convince my boyfriend and eventually, after taking full responsibility for grooming and litterbox cleaning, he agreed not to one cat but two (he seriously suggested getting 2 so they can keep each other company while we’re at work during the day)! My babies are coming to live with us at the end of the month and I can’t wait.

    But I’m very happy to report cat people are not stigmatized at all in the Netherlands, I think more than half the Dutch couples have cats and the rest have either dogs or no pets at all. The concept of ‘crazy cat lady’ doesn’t really exist here. Great country for cat-lovers like you and me 🙂

    And thanks for divulging the mystery behind the name. I hadn’t understood it until now.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Hi Simona!
      Thanks for reading I HAVE CAT and taking the time to post your comment.

      I’m SO excited that you are adopting to kittens! I TOTALLY agree with your boyfriend that a kitten needs company. Please be sure to post photos of them on the I HAVE CAT facebook page will you? http://www.facebook.com/ihavecat

      Maybe I should move to the Netherlands!

  • I have, *gulps*, NINE CATS. Love me, love my cats. =^.^= Plus, they all get along! It’s a kitty miracle. <3

  • Marta

    Me and my boyfriend share our lives with 15 cats, sometimes more because we foster many kitties, we enjoy the company of 8 dogs and we don`t consider ourselves to be crazy people. We have a big house with all kinds of beds for cats but 6 or 9 prefer to share the large bed (ours) with us, depends if it´s cold o hot.

    • I HAVE CAT

      Amazing! Lucky dogs and kitties! I can’t imagine how hard it is to keep everything clean—-i sometimes feel like I am losing the battle with just THREE cats, but then again I only have a one bedroom!
      Thanks for taking the time to write Marta! Thanks for reading IHC!

  • I Has Noms!

    • I HAVE CAT

      xo

  • PIEWACKET525

    WHEN I WAS BORN THERE WAS A CAT AND A DOG. THE DOG THOUGHT I SHOULD BE KILLED THE CAT DISAGREED, AND STAYED IN MY CRIB WITH ME. I BECAME A FAN. THROUGH OUT MY LIFE IF PEOPLE DIDN’T UNDERSTAND, OH WELL FOR THEM. IF A BOY FRIEND DIDN’T LIKE THE CAT(S) THEY COULD BE REPLACED. I MET MY HUSBAND IN MY EARLY 30’S. SHORTLY AFTER (ALMOST A YEAR) HE BECAME DISABLED IN A CAR CRASH. ONE OF CATS JUMPED SHIP ON ME AND LANDED ON HIS CHEST. SHE STAYED WITH HIM FOR ABOUT 6YRS.  RIGHT ON HIS CHEST. IT WAS THE HARDEST TIME IN HIS LIFE, AND FAT CAT HELPED HIM THROUGH IT. MY HUSBAND IS NOW A CAT PERSON.

    • omc that’s amazing about when you were a baby! i’m so sorry to hear about your husband but it’s so wonderful that your kitty helped him out like that – so sweet! 

  • Anonymous

    To all the people in NYC, and everywhere who judge “single women with cats”:  I’ll say it LOUD, Say it Proud: I HAVE CATS!!!  If you think there is something wrong with that well, perhaps you should let go of judgement, take a great big deep breath, get your knickers out of your butt crack and accept people as they are…we are, each one, beautiful…and CRAZY in our own way! *Ana climbs down off her soap box and looks for cats of any color to pet, even though she is dressed in black!*

    • omc I LOVE THIS comment!!!! love love love! I’m right there with you! ha!

  • lisa b

    I admit it.  I have cat.

    • Anonymous

      🙂

  • wery wery  good

    • ihavecatnyc

      THANKS FOR READING and taking the time to comment 🙂
      Hope you are a fan of I HAVE CAT on facebook too! http://www.facebook.com

  • I loved this post. I just made a blog about my cats, so you can see the name by my comment. I think yours is really creative and clever, and I am loving to read it. Congratulations for not being afraid to say you have cat!

  • MeowhowseMary

    Pleased to meet you, Tamar.  Like you, I  also have one cat, simply b/c I share a home with my elderly father who has made me promise to limit my feline stash to just one, probably b/c when he moved in with me there were four of the darlings present.  One died, one moved out with my roommate, the other one (Rainey) found a more suitable forever home where she could boss both the dog and the guy.  She thinks she has died and gone to heaven. 

    If I had a blog it would be “Better Darn Well Like Cats,” sort of a take-off of that movie “Must Love Dogs.” 
    However, after two failed marriages I’ve retired from the dating scene and sticking with cats.  The outcomes are much better.  It works well – my health isn’t the best, but my children are grown and provide me with grandchildren to spoil as well.  Life is good, meow? 

    One thing I learned the hard way:  Never trust a guy who dislikes cats. 

    • ihavecatnyc

      I agree about a man who doesn’t like cats….warning warning warning. But here’s the thing…i have THREE cats now – yikes~ I ended up keeping Haddie the failed foster. Here’s her story. This was written before I made her “official” http://ihavecat.com/2010/05/04/tipping-point/