Well-Groomed, Plays Nicely With Others

Today’s post written by my friend Joyce, an art director and holistic health coach in NYC.

It’s not difficult to see how the economy has affected the amount of abandoned kitties out there in need of a home. It became something I related to personally when I found myself out of a job, looking for work in one of the worst economies in history.


I couldn’t help but feel for Calamity, a 12-year-old cat who was abandoned by her “person” in favor of a dog his new girlfriend’s son wanted, and subsequently, got. I took Calamity in, hoping she would become a treasured playmate to Pumpernickel, my resident rescue, who’s been through her own calamities prior to my adopting her (I’m told her previous owner was murdered!).


It didn’t work out as well as I had hoped. Calamity is not so fond of Pumpernickel and vice versa. But the real problem is despite my fierce denial to the contrary I am allergic to her.  Calamity is very affectionate, which I enjoy immensely (Pumpernickel not so much) but when you’re allergic, a clingy cat can be the kiss of death.


I realize she’s no spring chicken but I was surprised at how difficult it has been finding a home for Calamity. I thought for sure she would get adopted before too long. She is stunningly beautiful, with her long, white, caramel and black spotted coat and striking green eyes. But sadly, despite lots of networking and online posts, I’ve had no takers.

I love cuddling!

As I comfort her and let her know she’s safe and loved (kiss, kiss, ah…choo!), I couldn’t help but notice the parallel as I tried to find work in the world of advertising. I’ve had a long and successful career as an Art Director with some of the biggest, most respected advertising agencies in the world, but like Calamity, I’m having a hard time getting placed.

We all know there are cut backs everywhere these days and people aren’t putting themselves out, for kitty and employee alike. But we’re both such great catches! Well-groomed, plays nicely with others. Anyone would be lucky to have us. There are just too many of us who need good “homes.”

So close but yet so far

I used to volunteer for a NYC shelter called Bide-a-Wee.  Every time I would go in and look at the kitties I was confounded at the amount of beautiful, healthy, sweet, deserving cats that were there looking for a home. How could that be? Who wouldn’t want them? So wonderful. So much to give. Each adoring face looking up with pleading eyes, begging for understanding of their particular plight. Here I am, but for the cage, in the same position.

Will you be my mommy?

I realize Calamity and I are only one story in a million during these times. I know many readers out there are in my same boat and I take comfort in that. We are, nonetheless, both deserving candidates for the right fit.  I can only hope things will turn around for us in the near future, but in the meantime, I’m glad we have each other.

UPDATE: Since this story was originally posted, Calamity has found a forever home with a sweet older lady who lives in the West Village. Joyce has been freelancing steadily but is still looking for a full time gig.

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  • We (my kittehs and I) hope that everything works out well for both of you. It’s such a rough time right now. We haven’t lost anything – yet – but every day I wake up with that fear of “will today be the day?”.

    • Thanks Cathy. Try not to fear each day. Embrace what you have, kitties and all. I believe staying positive brings more good things your way. =^..^=

  • JC

    I so hope that you find a job soon. And, that your new kitty does too.

    • Ihavecat

      Thanks for posting JC, I will be sure Joyce gets your wishes ::)

  • elaine lively

    oh you sound like such a good person shame on that person who gave her up to satisfy some kid who will probably tire of the dog as soon as the novelty wears off! i have a elderly cat too and he is the sweetest thing, i hope one of my friends would take him if something happenned to me, we all need to look in to that.. GOOD LUCK,sweet Calamity..

    • Ihavecat

      Thanks for reading and commenting Elaine. I will be sure to pass your words along to Joyce 🙂

  • jmuhj

    Calamity is GORGEOUS (and so is Pumpernickel)! Twelve is the prime of life for a cat and yes, in a sane world, there’d be prospective adopters lined up around the block(s) hoping for a chance to bring such a beauty into their lives. But as we all know, this ISN’T a sane world, not by a long shot. How I can relate to your entire post, being in much the same position! and every member of my (rescued) family, the same.

    Have you tried any of the medical or wholistic helpers for allergic people, or one or more of the topicals available to reduce dander on your cat(s)? Allergic friends I’ve known would NEVER give up their cats, no matter what; and there are more aids available than ever to help people with allergies. I’m hoping and praying Calamity will be able to stay with you and Pumpernickel for life — it’s very hard on cats to be shuffled around from person to person and place to place.

    And for the former caregivers of Calamity, my thoughts and feelings are unprintable on your nice blog, but you might know what they are. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

    • Ihavecat

      I’m with you on your thoughts on the former owner…unbelievable isn’t it. Thank goodness for Joyce and her kind heart. Thanks for reading and for your comment and I will be sure to send your note her way 🙂

  • I hope you and Calamity have better luck very soon. 🙂

    • Ihavecat

      Thanks for reading and posting D.R., I will be sure Joyce (and Calamity) get your message.

  • See you at BlogPaws? In the fur? Disco and Brighton will be there!

    • Ihavecat

      Cool! I’ve never “met” Cornish Rex cats before! Let’s look out for eachother (I’m guessing Disco and Brighton will make it easy for me to find you!) .

  • Good luck to Joyce and Calamity! 🙂 thank you for sharing the story I have cat :).

    • Ihavecat

      Thanks as always for reading and taking the time to leave a note! 🙂

  • Gosh, I sure hope Calamity can find a home. There are 18 cats living here so I have enough. Hope you find a job too. It is tough, but you just have to keep going somehow. Have a great week.

    • Ihavecat

      Hi Marg, thanks so much for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment. I’ll pass the kind words along to Joyce (and Calamity!). Can’t wait to check out your blog!

  • Everycat

    Calamity is so sweet, how callous her previous owner was. I expect the Gfs son’s dog will be dumped eventually too poor thing. These people need a good whapping.

    What a saucepot Pumpernickel is too!

    We’ve heard there are wipes to reduce dander, maybe they would help Joyce.

    Best of luck finding sweet Calamity a new home

    Whicky Wuudler

    • Ihavecat

      I love you Brits! “saucepot”! Love it!

      I agree in regards to Calamity’s previous owners.

      Thanks for stopping by and for taking the time to leave a note. Please be sure to sign up for I HAVE CAT email updates if you aren’t already!


  • Sweet Calamity is so lucky to have a foster friend like you. : ) We hope someone comes to their senses soon and invites her into their family.

    And we hope someone comes to their senses soon and invites YOU into their family, er workplace. Katie and I can TOTALLY relate. It took me two years, two months and two days to find a job. I have a little less than a month before I start and before I have to tell Katie. But at least now I can afford to keep her food dish stocked with her favorite salmon treats. ; )

    …loved reading this post! The parallel between the foster kitty and dislocated worker is perfect.


    • Ihavecat

      Thanks GG, i will pass your comments along to Joyce 🙂

  • Megan

    I am very touched by your story. I have had a similar experience in the past however I was the one giving my cats up. I am a single mother now with a 3 1/2 year old son. At the time he was born I had 3 cats and lived in a small 1 bedroom apartment. My cats were 2 sets of siblings, 2 tuxedo cats and 2 tabbies 1 boy and 1 girl each, however the female tabby, I gave to a friend about a year prior because I too went through a break up and found it to time consuming. I had my tuxedo cats for about 4 years and my tabby for 2 years. After I had my son it became very difficult to keep up with the three cats. When he was about 6 months old I made a decision to give 1 tuxedo, the female and the tabby to the local ASPCA and hope they could find them good homes. I decide to keep the Male tuxedo cat, whos name is Jack because we had a very strong bond.

    I find myself wondering about them all the time and hoping they are doing well in good homes. And at the same time I wonder how lonely Jack must be. I think its time for a friend and I would love to take Calamity, but I live out of state!!! Anyways, I hope you find her a good home and I’m sure her previous “owner” misses her because BF/GF’s come and go but your pets they are soul mates and love you unconditionally!!!!

    • Ihavecat

      I will pass your note along to Joyce. Maybe we can find a way to bring Calamity to you! Where do you live?

      It must have been so hard to give away your cats, I can’t even imagine.

      thanks for visiting. I hope you check out the rest of the bloggie and sign up for email updates!

  • I can fathom what Calamity’s former poor excuse for an owner was thinking – dogs and cats share households all the time.

    I have horrible allergies but have 3 cats and 1 dog. I just pop and antihistime every day and tell my allergy to deal with it.
    Maybe Joyce can do the same thing and wishing her well with the job hunt. As for Calamity and Pumpernickel time will help mend Pumpernickel’s outrage over another cat being in her territory.

    • Ihavecat

      Awww, bless you! Thanks so much for taking the time to post. I will pass your thoughts along to Joyce for sure. I recently discovered this product that I’m super interested in for those who suffer from pet allergies – maybe you should give it a try http://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod_display.cfm?pcatid=13492
      (let me know if it works – or not! maybe you could write a review for I HAVE CAT?!).

  • Andrea

    Love your blog! I’m a crazy cat lady with three cats!

    • Ihavecat

      Thanks ANDREA for stopping by to read my blog and posting a comment! Hope you come back again soon and thanks for the support! goooo CCLs! LOL